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Well, like many parents, we have spent the past 15 months taking trips to the doctors surgery for the wee woman to get all her vaccinations. Sometimes I often wondered if we rushed in too quickly in following the normal turn of events and maybe should have done some more research into each vaccination before allowing our daughter to get them. It never really weighed too heavily in my thoughts until the most recent vaccination was given – the MMR. This is the only one Tamar seemed to take a reaction to. High temperature, a spotty rash and generally being unwell and clingy, were symptoms we had never seen in Tamar before, it was terrifying to say the least!

As she started displaying these symptoms 2 days after the vaccination, it seemed logical to us that they were a reaction to the MMR. However, at the onset of the symptoms the doctor concluded it was chicken pox. Assuming the doctor was correct, we took the sensible precautions – keeping her away from other children, washing hands frequently etc This of course did result in disruption to normal family routine ie.One parent cant go to work for a week. A fairly normal sacrifice parents need to anticipate upon having children and we had no problem doing this. However, three days later, with no blisters developing, itchy skin or any other chicken pox symptoms, we concluded it could not possibly have been chicken pox after all. Which brings us back to the MMR. Although we can never be certain, it seems a fairly logical conclusion that a normally very healthy baby who gets sick 2 days after an injection, gets very sick due to the injection.

Despite the distressing sickness for a few days, this was probably quite a mild ‘illness’ in comparison to those Tamar may have had if she didn’t have all her vaccinations, and in many ways, I still agree with our decision to go ahead with them all. My real grievance is the lack of openness concerning the possible side effects these vaccinations have and the eagerness by many medical professionals to pin these symptoms on other illnesses. One suggestion has been made that many doctors wouldn’t admit these kinds of reactions are caused by vaccinations because it would add to the already questionable safety issues surrounding them, especially the MMR. But as parent, I would appreciate the truth that a vaccination causes these symptoms, and be able to deal with them accordingly rather than be panicking over a illness that isn’t really there in the first place.

Anyone else have an opinion or personal experiences they would like to share? Would love to hear from you!

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This is most definitely one of the best books I’ve read concerning Christians and their finance management.  Streater outlines 7 ‘money myths’ that keep Christians in financial difficulty.  The easy-to-understand, direct language is the true success of this book.  The reader is left without a doubt as to what is required of them to manage their finances in a biblical way. The author outlines plans to show how you can get out of debt; build wealth; gain financial freedom and stay that way for life!  Although there are a lot of biblical teachings in the book, there are also many practical tips on daily expenditure and controlling the destructive behaviors that so often leave Christians in financial turmoil.  I would recommend this book to everyone!

Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from Thomas Nelson Publishers as part of their BookSneeze.com <http://BookSneeze.com> book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 <http://www.access.gpo.gov/nara/cfr/waisidx_03/16cfr255_03.html> : “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”

This was a very unique book to review.  Beautifully designed, it takes the form of a gift book, with short historical stories, used to show how the ‘butterfly effect’ can be seen in human behaviour.  The Butterfly Effect is based on the idea that every single thing we do has an affect on everything and everyone around us.  Andrews sums this up at the end of his book by explaining, ” The very beating of your heart has meaning and purpose.  Your actions have far greater value than silver or gold.  Your life and what you do with it today…..MATTERS FOREVER”.  While I can see some biblical justification for this logic, in that every day we should be making a difference in our Christian lives, I remain unconvinced that this book expresses this in the correct way.  For example, many of the stories are taken from American history, but I can think of a lot biblical stories from which the same principles can be drawn.

On the whole, the book could make a nice gift, but in my opinion we could not categorize it as a spiritual or biblical book.  It is at best, inspirational, in the sense of encouraging people to live well and purposefully.

Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from Thomas Nelson Publishers as part of their BookSneeze.com <http://BookSneeze.com> book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 <http://www.access.gpo.gov/nara/cfr/waisidx_03/16cfr255_03.html> : “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”

An absolutely powerful book from Max Lucado!  This is an excellent read for all Christians, whether mature or young in the faith, we all need reminded of the example which Christ set before us, and how we are to try and live up to that perfect standard.  The book outlines the many different ways we should be witnessing and caring for those in the world around us.

The book really brought to my attention the way in which small acts of compassion (which if we are honest, we very often avoid in the name of convenience) can impact on someone’s life, and lead to a great witness for God.  For example, walking up to a homeless person, handing them a gospel tract and walking away because you don’t like the way they smell, may not be the most effective type of outreach.  Or waiting in the school playground for your children and purposefully avoiding eye contact with the woman who you know (from local gossip) to be single mother with a difficult past; for fear of becoming too friendly with ‘that sort’ of person, you avoid her all together.

The potential for witnessing in these situations is enormous, but we need to get out of our comfort zone first.  Imagine the difference it would make if you genuinely looked at that homeless man, and asked his name, where he was from and showed an interest in him (in the same way God showed an interest in us, that we really don’t deserve). Buy him a coffee and sandwich and gave him a gospel tract.  This may cost us ten minutes of our time, and a few pounds out of our pockets, but lets face it, it the Lord Jesus Christ (creator of heaven and earth and all things within them) was able to make time for this, I think we can too!  Imagine going over to that single mother in the playground, having a good, genuine conversation and asking her and her child to your house for dinner some night.  Can you imagine the opportunities for witnessing that could be presented in this situation?

There are many more suggestions of how we can ‘out live our life’ in this book, and I would thoroughly recommend it!

Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from Thomas Nelson Publishers as part of their BookSneeze.com <http://BookSneeze.com> book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 <http://www.access.gpo.gov/nara/cfr/waisidx_03/16cfr255_03.html> : “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”

A very interesting little book from David Jeremiah.  He has written the book in a very sensible way, addressing questions that many people have and about the End Times.  I would say that the book would be best suited to those who have little or no knowledge on these topics, as it gives answers in an understandable way, but does not go into great depth on any one question. The topics explained are Current Events, The Rapture, The Tribulation, The Antichrist, The Second Coming, The Millenium and The New Heaven and the New Earth.  The size of the book is very compact (6 x 4) and would make an ideal gift.

Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from Thomas Nelson Publishers as part of their BookSneeze.com <http://BookSneeze.com> book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 <http://www.access.gpo.gov/nara/cfr/waisidx_03/16cfr255_03.html> : “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”

Another thought-provoking book by Max Lucado.  The very short chapters and easy-to-read style have contributed greatly to the success of this book.  While I wouldn’t be in complete agreement with all his interpretations of biblical accounts, he does make some very valid arguments as to the way in which God uses very ordinary people for extraordinary things.  The vast amount of bible characters he discusses makes it easy for the reader to identify with at least one character and learn lessons from a particular story.

The chapter on Joseph was particularly interesting, as Lucado highlights the way in which God decided to plan the events of the Lord’s birth was probably not what Joseph had expected.  So often when things happen in a different way than we expect, we question whether it is God’s will or not. But Joseph still acted obediently despite the adverse and unusual circumstances.  He trusted in God more than his own plans.  I think this is something we could all learn to do in our daily walk with God.  Overall, the book was very encouraging, light reading.

Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from Thomas Nelson Publishers as part of their BookSneeze.com <http://BookSneeze.com> book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 <http://www.access.gpo.gov/nara/cfr/waisidx_03/16cfr255_03.html> : “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”

A few months ago there was discussion as to whether or not the Belfast Marathon should be moved from Monday to Sunday.  Many public figures, politicians and mainstream churches publicly objected to this, on the grounds that it would cause major disruption to Sunday services.  The inconvenience of holding the marathon on a Sunday seemed to be a major concern for many people.

I would like to discuss the churches response to this issue.  I believe that changing the day of the marathon to a Sunday would be a mistake, although this is not based on the grounds of ‘inconvenience.’  Setting aside my personal opinion, what we need to take note of is the message this situation conveys about the Christian church in our country.  If the main objection to having a sporting event held on a Sunday is that it is ‘inconvenient’ for church-goers, then we are sending out the wrong message to the community.  Firstly, because this argument is based solely on the selfish grounds that church attendance will suffer and people who manage to attend a service will have a longer journey than normal.  This is utterly selfish as it takes no consideration of those who are inconvenienced by the event when it is held on a Monday.  Secondly, as a church if we are going to object to something should it not be based on scripture rather than our own opinions?  Should the main reason for objecting to this day not be the upholding of the fourth commandment rather than “it will disrupt our day”?

My reasons for not holding the marathon on a Sunday are based on the scriptural teaching of setting the Sabbath apart as a day of worship and consecration; making it separate and different from the other days of the week.  While this view may be seen as extreme, it is what I believe.  For me, this is black and white issue.  Of course I cannot judge those who don’t share this view, but I can scripturally disagree with them.  As Christians we expect to hear arguments from unbelievers which say we cannot impose Christian vales and morals on people who don’t believe in God or the bible.  This has been and will continue to be an ongoing debate.  However, I believe the real danger comes from those in the middle of these two ends of the spectrum.  Those who have adapted and changed the teachings of true Christianity in order to fit in with our comfortable lifestyles.  Those who use their religion as the basis of their objection to the proposed change of day for the marathon, when really is their own convenience that they are fighting to preserve.  It is from this same group of Christians that we hear of plans such as cancelling a Sunday service because it falls on Boxing Day or cancelling Sunday Evening Services during the summer.  It is this type of Christianity that does damage to the efforts of true believers who are trying to reach out for the gospel.  This is because Christianity is not being seen as a firm, steadfast faith but rather a watered-down, ever changing accessory that we can just fit into our lifestyles.

I am not against change in many areas of the church, in fact making changes can sometimes improve the work of the church.  But on theological, scripturally proven doctrines and practises, we should be known as people who stand firm and voice our beliefs.  If the community were to see this firm stance based not on opinions but on the  bible, it may establish at very least, a respect for the gospel and at very best an understanding and an acceptance of it.

We can all think of religious faiths or even individual denominations who hold unmovable positions on certain issues.  We may not agree with them but we can respect them because they are devout in what they believe.  Until the Christian church (ie. the people of God, saved and living in accordance with scripture) earns the respect of unbelievers by upholding the very basics of biblical teachings, we cannot expect the Lord to work through us in reaching out in love with the gospel.  Why would an unbeliever trust what we say about the gospel whenever we show that our faith is so maleable and ultimately selfish because we pick and chose the parts of Christian teaching according to what suits our lifestyle best?!

I have heard a few suggestions that encouraged churches to use the change of day for the marathon as an opportunity to reach out to the local community in practical ways such as setting up water stands for the runners.  While I agree that this type of endeavour could give valuable opportunities for witnessing and serving others, I do not think it would right to undertake these on a Sunday, as these type of activities, despite being kind, are not a form of worship and rejuvenation for God’s people.  There is no reason as to why churches could not do this practical type of outreach on another day of the week.

As a church we need to be fired up by the Holy Spirit.  Standing up and shouting our biblical convictions, showing we are serious about our faith, unwilling to compromise on important issues.  When we honour the Lord in this way, even though it may be difficult going against the popular trend, we know that the Lord will honour us.

Dave Ramsey has effectively compiled this book as an easy to use resource for people of all ages who need answers to financial questions.  Issues such as how to tackle huge debt, how to budget or how to teach children to manage money are all dealt with very clearly.  The question and answer format is very effective, as the book could just be used for reference only or as a complete guide to finance in general.  While being easy to read, it is not ‘easy reading’, in that Dave Ramsey is very direct in speaking the truth, eg. “your finances aren’t the problem, YOU ARE!”.  Many of us could learn a lot from the many home truths this book reveals.  I think his approach to finance and wealth is unlike many other books of its kind, because he very often uses biblical justification for his arguments.  Tithing, giving, labouring for our money are all ideals set in a Christian perspective and so I would recommend this book, and any of Dave Ramsey’s other books to Christians who are seeking financial advice.  My favourite quote in the book has to be “Money is like manure.  If you leave it in a pile, it stinks.  But if you spread it around, it does a lot of good.”

Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from Thomas Nelson Publishers as part of their BookSneeze.com <http://BookSneeze.com> book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 <http://www.access.gpo.gov/nara/cfr/waisidx_03/16cfr255_03.html> : “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”

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Greater Love by Robert Whitlow is Book 3 in the Tides of Truth Series.  Although I had not read the first two books in this series I was able to follow the story line easily.  Without a doubt it is one of the best Christian fiction novels I’ve read in a long time!  The fact that it only took me a few days to read, bears testimony to this.  The book can be described as a legal/mystery novel, as the main plot involves a young lawyer who has just begun her legal career with a very challenging but intricate case.  As the story unfolds it is clear that the book also has many spiritual themes as well.  Ideas of faith and providence are brought out very well in the course of the book, as well as having a romantic story line embedded in a very subtle way.  Overall the book was very inspiring and a great encouragement as it reminded me of the way God can work in and through many difficult circumstances.

Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from Thomas Nelson Publishers as part of their BookSneeze.com <http://BookSneeze.com> book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 <http://www.access.gpo.gov/nara/cfr/waisidx_03/16cfr255_03.html> : “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”

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Motherhood is one of those amazing roles that many women are blessed with. We recognise that having children may not be God’s will for every woman but for those who are blessed in this way, it opens up a whole new aspect of life. As Christian mothers, we have a great duty and responsibility under God to raise our children according to biblical principles. Although the world may look on children as a burden to women’s freedom and a costly weight that inconveniences our lives, the bible teaches that ‘children are an heritage of the LORD’ (Psalm 127:3).

I recently read an article discussing the latest book by Elisabeth Badinter, in which she argues firmly that the real oppression women are are now under is self-imposed by the ideal standard of what it means to be a good mother. She firmly believes that society has created this ideal of what a good mother should be, and that it restricts women’s lives to the extent that motherhood becomes their whole life. In encouraging habits such as continuing to smoke during pregnancy or giving powdered milk instead of breastfeeding, she believes that women can keep a hold of their identity as women and then have a secondary and less prominent role as mothers. I believe that this type of attitude is a product of the sinful fallen nature that we are all born with. It is a very selfish and self-centered approach to life.

Being blessed with children is a privilege and to think that they will come as no inconvenience to our lives as busy modern women, would be naive.  But from a biblical perspective, we are taught to invest time and effort into raising our children correctly, ‘train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it’ (Proverbs 22 v 6).  As mothers, we should be using every method possible to follow this instruction.  As a blessing from the Lord, our children deserve the best start in life, even from birth.  I know this is a very frequent ramble of mine, (and is a little off topic) but I wholeheartedly believe that God designed women’s bodies so that they are able to feed their children in the early months, for a very specific reason.  I know that for medical reasons many women cannot do this, but for those who can, it forms a wonderful bond with your baby and builds up that relationship between the two of you.  It is the Lords provision for your baby, through you! How amazing to be used by God in such a real life-giving way!

As a child gets older their are a lot of choices that have to be made that are not as straightforward as breastfeeding (although I know this in itself creates issues for some women).  Schooling is a very important part of a child’s life.  We encourage learning and gaining knowledge as it is continually encouraged in scripture.  But is Home Education the best way for mothers to teach their children properly and in the most Godly environment possible?  For many families the answer is yes, they feel this is the Lord’s leading in their lives.  For many families, Christian Education is the prefered option, as  parents may feel unqualified to take on such a responsibility but they still want their children to be in a Christian environment and be taught by Christian teachers, with the added benefit of their children having social interaction with other children.  For other families, secular education is the prefered method as they feel that putting their children in a secular environment might better prepare them for the world in which they will have to live after school.

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I am not going to give an opinion on what I feel is right, because to be honest I’m not sure!  My husband and I both went to secular schools, my husband now teaches in a Christian School, and we are also considering Home Education, so a bit of a mixed bag!  But I think no matter what the decision, it is the responsibility of the parents and (dare I say it) especially mothers to have a keen interest and good knowledge of the people that are influencing our children’s lives, whether that be teachers, children’s workers or other children.  Yes, this may be looked at by the world as a tremendous burden on women, that men may not experience in the same way, but being a Christian isn’t just a Sunday habit, it is a whole life change and newness of heart and so everything we do must be done in accordance with scripture, including taking care of our children.

Very often when speaking about women and their different roles, people refer to Proverbs 31, which I recommend you also read. Although in order to try and meet this ideal, do you think mothers have to be the primary care-giver?  And does this include home schooling our children?   Please feel free to leave your opinions on any of these issues.

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