Last month I watched an online interview with Bob Goff, the author of Love Does, and he had so many gems of wisdom that could turn into a whole series of blog posts rather than just one. But for now, I just want to share one insightful question with you
Do you want to be known for your opinions, or remembered for your love?
In light of the election today, and upcoming elections in other countries, we all have our own opinions, beliefs and convictions when it comes to electing those who govern our country. As Christians, we have a biblical duty to elect those who we feel align with our own morals. In many ways we also have a duty to share our thoughts with others, explain our Christian standpoint and defend our faith. I have no problem with that.
The issue for me comes when we cross the line between ‘speaking the truth in love’ (Eph 4:15) and speaking so that our opinion is heard and we can be seen as a great advocate for truth. There is a difference. We can all think of that one person in our lives who loves to have an opinion, and *needs* to share it with everyone. Sometimes, the dignity of being silent and showing restraint can prove our point much better than incessant talking, slander or ‘soapboxing’ our opinions.
Again, please don’t perceive this as an encouragement to be passive on political, social or moral issues. We all have our part to play in shaping the future for our children. We all must defend our faith. However, we also need to remember the bigger purpose of what we are called to do in our Christian lives. We are called to serve Christ, walk with God and spread the gospel. This will take different forms in all of our lives, but the light of the gospel should be evident in everything we do. Would it not be better if people could think of you, and say “Well she was stuck to her guns on that issue, but it was done from a genuine heart conviction and she handled herself with dignity” rather than saying “She was stubborn and almost ignorant and then labeled everything as a Christian conviction, it was hypocrisy, as usual”?
So how can we navigate the very narrow path between Speaking the Truth in Love and Speaking the Truth on a Soapbox? For me, this is often tough, which is why I’m sharing with you all – nothing like online accountability to keep a sharp tongue in check! As mummies, we also have to keep in mind that the way we behave and speak, will rub off on our children. If you are rude, forceful and incapable of having a calm conversation then theres a good chance your children will do just the same. Or else they will see your faults in this area and be sent in polar opposite direction on the very issues that you are so passionate about.
When it comes to children, more is caught than taught. Make sure what your children catch from you, is good Christian personality traits that they can apply to their own lives when the time comes. We can all see the decay of morals in our society and it stands to reason that by the time my own children will be voting, there may be even tougher battles that our children will have to fight than what we are currently dealing with. I want to make sure my children can speak the truth in love, defend the gospel and above all else, show Christ in their words, thoughts and deeds. Who’s with me?