I was really excited about getting into this book. Many of you may know the author, Lysa Terkeurst, from her work with Proverbs 31 ministries. I have read much of her writing on their Facebook page but I’d never bought one of her books. It was the tagline ‘making wise decisions in the midst of endless demands’ that really caught my attention. One thing I have learned from my own experiences and from talking to other mummies is that we often feel like there are constant demands on us, but yet we are unsure what we should do or say. How do you juggle a full time job with a family? How do split your emotional strength between your own needs and that of a friend? How do you decide which area of church work to become involved with and which to say NO to? When all the options are good ones, you can feel guilty for saying no to any of them.
In this book, the author clearly addresses all of these questions and more. She takes the reader through a process of considering our lives and our calling. Our ‘best yes’ decisions will be obvious to us if we are aware what our purpose is and what part we have to play in God’s greater plan. By directly challenging the reader on difficult ‘discomfort’ points, such as overwhelmed schedules, the need to please others, managing expectations and the awkwardness of saying NO, she has many hard hitting truths that I think every woman needs to hear. My copy of the book in covered in highlighted sentences and phrases, and I wish I could share them all with you, but here’s some that I loved
“That daily stuff – those responsibilities that seen more like distractions – those things we want to rush and just get through to get on with the better and bigger assignments of life – those things that are unnoticed places of service? They are the very experiences from which we unlock the richest of wisdom. We’ve got to practise in the everyday places of our lives.”
“Whenever there is a conflict between that we feel we’re expected to do and what we feel we should do, it’s time to step back from the decision. And seek clarity from the only source free of the entanglements of misguided opinions and unrealistic expectations. God.”
“Our decisions aren’t just isolated choices. Our decisions point our lives in the directions we’re about to head. How me a decision and I’ll show you a direction.”
“We can’t use our ‘no’ answers as wands to wish away our responsibilities. Nor can we use our ‘no’ answers as weapons.”
While being very challenging, the book is also very practical. We learn how to say No gracefully and appropriately, and how to discern if a request deserves a ‘best yes’ answer or not. You can probably tell I have really enjoyed this book and would highly recommend it.
On a side note, I told you earlier in the year that my reading goal is 52 books in 2016. If you are interested, I am roughly on track 🙂 Although I’m relying on audio books from audible.co.uk quite a lot. Here’s the completed list so far.
I realise that this is a random list – I like to vary the type of books I read, and alternate between fiction and non-fiction. Some of these titles I got for free with my Kindle Unlimited account. I am in no way trying to push Amazon on you by the way – but just want to explain I don’t buy all the books I read! (Incase you’re thinking this blogging game is more lucrative than it really is lol). I pay 7.99 a month for Kindle Unlimited and with it I have access to thousands of books and I can read as many or as little as I want. With Audible.co.uk I also pay 7.99 a month and to me this is worth every penny, as I listen to audiobooks everywhere. In the car, doing dishes, doing the ironing, on my very short walk around the corner to school 🙂 I used to listen to them in the car while I was driving to school, when we lived 30 minutes away, but thankfully I don’t do much driving these days.
What tools and apps do you use to help you read regularly? I’d love to hear from you!