As a Christian, God is and should be first in lives. But after God, very often we put absolutely everyone before ourselves. I know there is an element of our faith that instructs us to serve others, however I don’t believe that this is always to be at our own personal cost. I have 3 reasons why I think we should be putting ourselves before others, and it’s not for any selfish motive. Let me explain my thoughts in three short points.
- You are a person of value. Before you are a wife, mummy, employee, business owner, home owner or anything else, YOU are a person of great value, created in the image of God. As a child of God YOU are loved, special, created uniquely to anyone else on this earth and you have a duty to treat yourself as worthy of being well looked after. It is not Godly or noble to neglect your own health, relationships, finances, personal care or spiritual wellbeing in the name of serving God. While we know there can be seasons of sacrifice, God has never asked us to burn out. In fact many times in scripture we are encouraged to rest. Rest on Him, rest in Him.
- Taking care of yourself is actually a SELFLESS act, not a Selfish one. When you put self care at the end of your to-do list, you will drop the standard to which you are able to care for everyone else. For example, if you make sure all the kids have breakfast, but don’t have time to feed yourself, you will be ‘crabby’ (hoping this isn’t just me). Low blood sugar, tummy rumbles and a busy schedule is a recipe for a stressed out mum. Ensuring that you get what you really need EVERY day, physically and spiritually, will better equip you to fulfil your responsibilities properly.
- By taking care of your mind, body and soul, you are setting a good example to your children. By taking the time to eat breakfast, have a quiet time or even spend a little time getting yourself ‘presentable’ (ok maybe I need to work on this one hehe), in the mornings, you are showing them what is normal. If your normal routine is rush rush rush around the house, barking orders and drinking coffee on the move, then this is what your children will perceive as normal adult behaviour. Is that what you want? Me neither.